Founder · Disarmament Fellow · TEDx Speaker

Built from
the inside of
the experience.

Filipina-Indian founder, humanitarian disarmament fellow, and TEDx speaker. My work offers depth without abstraction because it was built from the inside of the experience, not the outside of it.

AK Arbaina Kawilan on the TEDx stage

My story

Two cultures.
One unbreakable thread.

I grew up in Cotabato City, Philippines, raised by my grandmother. Of Filipino and Indian heritage, I learned early that identity is not handed to you. It is something you build, question, and keep choosing.

Before immigrating to the United States, I built a life in the Philippines from the ground up. I founded and ran two small businesses, then moved into public service and humanitarian work — from the Municipal Mayor's Office of Sultan Kudarat to A Single Drop for Safe Water, and finally to Nonviolence International Southeast Asia, where I became a Humanitarian Disarmament Fellow. That work took me to New York in 2024, where I delivered a civil society intervention at the 4th Review Conference on Small Arms and Light Weapons at the United Nations.

Life in America brought real hardship. I navigated domestic violence, legal uncertainty, and systems that were never designed to work together. I rebuilt. And through that process I found the work that now defines me.

My advocacy sits at the intersection of gender-based violence and arms control. An intersection that is personal before it is political.

BS Accounting Technology, Notre Dame University, Cotabato City

What I do

How I show up

Speaking

Keynotes, panels, and workshops for organizations, universities, nonprofits, and community leaders navigating change, recovery, and responsibility.

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SADIA

An incorporated nonprofit and care coordination platform for immigrant women survivors of domestic violence. Currently building its board toward 501c3 status.

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Mentorship

Advisor with Girls Giving Grants, guiding high school girls in Austin through leadership, philanthropy, and civic engagement.

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The framework

The Emotional
Alchemy Framework

A resilience-based methodology for transforming adversity into identity and agency. Not a theory built from the outside. A framework forged from lived experience, designed to work for people who have been through the hardest things.

01
Acknowledgement
Naming what happened without minimizing it. The starting point of all transformation.
02
Transmutation
Choosing action in the middle of fear. Converting pain into direction, clarity, and agency.
03
Steady commitment
Small wins, sustained. The daily practice of rebuilding from the inside out.

Media

Watch, read, listen

Positively Filipino · March 2026

FilAms Among the Remarkable and Famous

Featured alongside a Broadway actress, a Brigadier General, and a federal judge in Positively Filipino's series on notable Filipino Americans.

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AsAmNews · January 2026

She Feared Deportation. Now She's Teaching Resilience.

A deep dive into Arbaina's journey from domestic violence survivor to TEDx speaker, and how she is helping other AAPI women find their footing.

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Discipline Conversations with Joey Pinz · Ep. 757

Emotional Alchemy: Transforming Pain

A conversation on emotional alchemy, survival, and what it means to transform pain into wisdom — from poverty in the Philippines to the TEDx platform.

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Frontend Queens · February 2026

Emotional Regulation for People Building Careers Under Pressure

A practical talk for tech professionals on stress patterns, internal boundaries, and the Emotional Alchemy framework as a tool for grounded decision-making.

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United Nations · 2024

Civil Society Intervention at RevCon4

Delivered a statement on behalf of Nonviolence International Southeast Asia at the 4th Review Conference on Small Arms and Light Weapons, New York.

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United Nations · June 2026

9th Biennial Meeting of States, BMS9

Returned to the UN for the 9th Biennial Meeting of States on Small Arms and Light Weapons. Watch the full session on LinkedIn.

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The journey

What got
me here

Cotabato City, Philippines

Raised by my grandmother. Filipino and Indian heritage. Identity is built, not given.

Entrepreneur, Philippines

Founded and operated two small businesses — a convenience store and a phone shop. Built from nothing.

Swiss Foundation for Mine Action

First internship in humanitarian disarmament. The beginning of a lifelong thread.

Municipal Mayor's Office, Sultan Kudarat

First professional role. Grounded in local government and community service.

A Single Drop for Safe Water

Community water access work across the Philippines.

Nonviolence International Southeast Asia

Humanitarian Disarmament Fellow. Advocacy at the intersection of arms control and gender-based violence.

Moving to America, 2018

New country. Navigated domestic violence, legal uncertainty, and systems not designed to work together. Rebuilt.

United Nations, June 2024

Civil society intervention at the 4th Review Conference on Small Arms and Light Weapons, New York.

TEDxBayshore Blvd, September 2025

"Safety is an Inside Job" — exploring internal safety as a leadership skill, not a personality trait.

United Nations, June 2026

Returned for the 9th Biennial Meeting of States on Small Arms and Light Weapons, New York.

SADIA Incorporated, June 2026

SADIA officially registered as a nonprofit with EIN. Building its board toward 501c3 status.

Current

Let's connect

Say hello

Want to book a talk, collaborate on something meaningful, or just reach out? I would love to hear from you.